February 15, 2019
Is your plate too full? Are you slammed or swamped? Or is your work ethic in overdrive?
We live in an era where flaunting our hectic schedules is considered cool and multitasking is productive. But for some of us, there is another dynamic at work: We are just addicted to being busy, according to a recent report by DNA.
Seema Hingorrany, a clinical psychologist and trauma therapist whose practice is in Mumbai comes across such people all the time, she says.
“People use the ‘I’m so busy’ phrase … to seek approval, …[to] appear busier than they actually are,” Hingorrany told the India-based news outlet. “Most people are lacking awareness or mindfulness. They are on hyper mode, on autopilot …. Most [finally are driven to] seek help when they take on too much stress and go into depression, or start having anxiety.
Bhakti Thakkar Bauva, a consultant clinical psychologist at Fortis Hiranandani Hospital in Vashi, sees a lot of people with this go-go psychology between the ages of 25 and 45, she told DNA. “They are mostly professionals who are entrepreneurs with their own business—or sometimes working in a multinational corporation in leadership roles. I, personally, have seen almost equal number of males and females, who use busyness as a coping mechanism,” she says. They are aware that they are busy all the time, but feel that there is no other way, and theirs is the best approach.
Indeed, “…the word, busy, has become synonymous with being successful. If you are a ‘busy’ person you are automatically important and sought-after, “ Mansi Hasan, a clinical psychologist who practices in Mumbai tells DNA.
She adds that FOMO (fear of missing out), high drive, and our environment are “hugely responsible” for this addiction, as they are constantly putting pressure on us to compete in a world that is rapidly evolving around us.
Hingorrany sees clients suffering from severe burnout, chronic fatigue syndrome and major depressive episodes. They also suffer from anxiety symptoms. People also complain about anger, pain disorders and other physiological issues.
Most experts believe that the addiction starts as a coping strategy. Bauva gives examples like, “I am finding it difficult to sleep at night, so let me work so much that I pass out due to exhaustion …. It means that the individual has an imbalanced, stressful life, where the problems are not resolved and are getting piled up.
“As the concerns are not going anywhere, they will only magnify with time,”she warns.
If you recognize yourself in this story, Mansi Hasan says the the following tips might help:
- Spend at least 30 minutes daily with yourself doing nothing.
- Restrict your screen time.
- Slow down, don’t attempt to be superhuman.
- Initiate boredom.
- Sleep and eat well.
- Spend time with nature. Use your five senses to rejuvenate yourself.
- Connect to your inner self.
- Don’t be task-oriented, be life-oriented.
- Seek happiness, but not in the form of materialistic success.
Research contact: @dna